I am thinking alot.
Triggered by a couple of conversations I have had of late.
About failure.

Failure.
Truly the 'f' word -
and it occurs to me, that i have created, for myself and my children, a world without failure; a world where failure is not an option, a world where the word 'failure' just does not exist.

Its an awful word, and i know that i visibly flinch when someone directs it at me.
To imply to yourself or to another that their best efforts have not been good enough- to label someone failure, is to risk scarring another soul for life.

In my life, with my children, there have been times, occasions when attempts at new projects, directions etc have been less than successful.

Is less than successful failure ?
No, no its not.

I ask you to think very carefully before you use the word failure with yourself, your kids or anyone else. Nothing is truly a failure when you look it the big picture. Everything teaches us something, no matter how small and seemingly insignificant. In terms of life lessons and soul progression, it is impossible to have anything other than success because everything will teach you something, even if that something is that you should have done it the other way.

To 'fail' means that there is no longer hope, and in this world, hope is the one thing we are always sure of having.

Many of my friends comment on my children and the apparent ease with which they live their lives. I have been told on many occasions that my children are blessed and in a lot of ways i agree however, they are also two kids who have bought up knowing that their best IS good enough and that if something doesn't work out just the way you wanted it too, it just meant that for now, that something, wasn't meant to happen.

How could anyone brand a child a failure? To do so , is truly child abuse. To brand yourself a failure is soul abuse, beside being very sad.

We have been gifted with free will and with free will, we will always have choice. Choice is part of the gift.
With choice you will always have options but contrary to popular thought, these options are not 'the right way' and 'the wrong way'- they are merely 'one way' or 'another way'.

You can never FAIL by trying- anything you try, you will never fail.
Never.
It may not work out perfect, but it will teach you something for sure.

As humans, we all have our triggers.............that is, we all have those things that make us react rather than act.

I know i do- i can not stand to see an adult yell abuse at a child, i do not use the word failure , i hate seeing spirituality being used as a tool for cruel people:- when someone tells you that 'your energy' is not right for them or their group, they are no better than a school yard bully, in many cases they are worse, because instead of coming out and just saying 'i don't like you' they turn it around and make it your fault that they find you unacceptable..........

hhhmmmmmmmm

One of Joshua's teachers told me once that he was so confident, so sure of himself and his actions, that he stood out amongst other kids his age. I remember telling her that it was because he knew, that basically, he could do no wrong- and i don't mean that to sound egotistical, merely just fact, he, like his sister knew, that no matter what they did, one way or another they would learn something from it.

That was something that was missing with a lot of the kids the same age as my kids- self confidence bought about by fear of failure.

If you take away the failure, a child has nothing to fear.

Words have such power, such longevity.

Please use them wisely.

I am off to make piklets for my witches.

I am housebound, carless, mobilephone less too ( bloody thing !- not a failure just very much less than perfect).
I have a ruptured abcess- yes, another one !!
and a pimple
yet i am talking with my Goddess
and She tells me, that i am all right.

I may not be me or her or she, but I am Lisa, and that is good enough.

Be nice to your children- they are your mirror.

Lisa x

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